Sunday, April 21, 2013

Architecture for Dummies


A solitary word can say volumes.

So. I slept on the couch last night after a conversation left me feeling like the bed wasn't big enough. I'm not saying I thought I was right. I'm just saying I wasn't in the mood to listen to the breathing of anyone but myself.

I woke up before the coffee pot started, before 5:00 a.m., and started praying.

"Lord, show me who is right in this."

The answer came softly yet clearly: It doesn't matter.

With those three little words, I knew I had not handled the situation well. But my feelings were still hurt and I wasn't getting the impression that I was wrong, just not going about things the right way.

"Lord, speak to me through Your word. Give me guidance."

Not that I had much confidence in receiving any real, concrete answers. I'm reading my Chronological Bible and am in the part about King Solomon building the temple.

I stand corrected, humbled, and amazed at the Lord's ability to communicate without a stutter.
Psalm 127 was included in my reading for today. The first verse is all it took.

Unless the Lord builds a house,
the work of the builders is wasted.

For all my good-intention preaching and soul sharing, God needs to be the One to build the house. No heart change will come without the Lord's orchestration. I don't need to puff about with how I'm feeling all the time, and chances are, I'm like a wrecking ball on a construction site.

Today, just for fun, (OK, my idea of fun) we took the Five Love Languages quiz and the Language of Apology quiz. Guess what? Our results were almost polar opposite. It was good to see it in writing. We are not the same, so neither one of us should use our own measuring stick to determine what is right. Especially when there really aren't any right answers anyway, just preference.

When you are in it for the long haul, adjustments need to be made. And as the relationship gets stronger, the adjustments won't matter so much. I saw this picture on the Proverbs 31 FB page and it seemed to sum up everything nicely:


  1. Great words today about what is important. It is so freeing when we learn that being right is not what is most important, being right with the Lord is. Thanks for your honesty in this post.

    1. Thanks, V, for your comment. I'm sure I will need to learn this again, but for now, things are sticking.