You cannot love someone that you are busy judging.
For me in my life, that means my husband. When I am feeling the most critical, I am acting the least loving. When that negative chatter starts to take over my brain, I need to silence it. This is one of those things that I "remember" all of the time like it's the first time. Silence the chatter by embracing Philippians 4:8. It is also my prayer for each of you as you become the wives God intended you to be.
And now, dear sisters, one final thing.
Fix your thoughts on
what is true, and honorable,
and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.
Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
ADDED THIS MORNING: Last night and this morning during my quiet time, God reminded me that I am not helping the situations that irritate me about my husband. When he comes home from work crabby, have I prayed for him at all, even once, during the day? Have I considered that as he makes strides towards God, as he has, that he is a bigger target for the enemy? Have I prayed for his protection and recognition of these attacks, or just sulked because he is wrecking my rosy plans? Oh Lord, you know my motives. Make my life easy and peaceful for me. Selfish, I know. I love and worship You that You love me enough to snatch those rose colored glasses right off my face and lead me to the mirror. Thank you for pointing out my failures, and at the same time reminding me of Your great power to redeem us all, through You alone.